People love to act

 People love to act like responding to your baby is some kind of weakness.

Like picking them up too fast or comforting them too often is going to “ruin” them.

But here’s the truth.
Kids don’t become confident by crying it out alone.
They become confident because someone showed up for them over and over until it became the safest thing they knew.

When you hold them
When you rock them
When you answer their cries before they turn into screams
You’re not creating a child who needs you too much.
You’re creating a child who knows they’re safe.

That safety is what lets them explore later.
That safety is what makes independence possible.
That safety is what every grown adult wishes they had more of.

You aren’t doing it wrong.
You’re doing the exact thing their little brain is begging for.
They don’t grow away from you because you pushed them
They grow away from you because you made them feel secure enough to try.