Sleep training

 Sleep training didn’t come from what babies needed.

It came from what society needed from mothers.

We needed women back at work.
Back on schedules.
Back to functioning like nothing just happened to their bodies, their hormones, their entire identity.

So we created systems that taught babies to sleep longer.
Alone.
On a clock.
Without needing us as much at night.

And then we labeled it
“healthy”
“necessary”
“independent sleep”

Because exhausted moms don’t fit into a world that doesn’t slow down for them.

This isn’t about shaming moms who sleep train.

Sometimes moms need sleep or they will break.
Sometimes families don’t have a choice.
Sometimes babies genuinely do well with it.

But it is worth asking:

Are we teaching babies independence…

or are we adapting them to a system that was never built for mothers in the first place?

Because those are not the same thing.